The Other Woman

I’m your go to person
your Girl Friday
on any day
the one you can count on
when you’ve forgotten how to
the one who’ll come n stay
for as long as you want me to
the one who’ll understand
what no one else can
the one who’ll be there
when no one else would dare
the one you can take for granted
in a world full of selfish fools
I’m your go to person
and that’s all I’ll ever be
in your relationship of two
I’m number three
just the other woman
the third person
available on cue
in your triangle of two.

Notes from my desk: You may not have set out to fall in love with a married wo/man, but there are times in life when even the most intelligent of us find their emotions getting the better of them.

This relationship is often used as a filler of loneliness or as a supplementary relationship where the primary still remains the marriage. The affair only provides a quick fix for all the parts that you cannot address with your partner, have tried to work upon but have failed or just don’t think it’s worth trying anymore for some reason. This new thrill, risk, romance, secrecy is all too exciting to give up and provides a perfect escape from reality.

Loving and/or dating a married individual can be extremely painful and seldom works out well.

But I’m not here to judge anyone or tell you to just dump him/her! This is just a small reminder to love yourself better. Right now, ask yourself why you’re okay to be treated like the other wo/man? Why live life as a shameful secret and never experience the full spectrum of a loving relationship?

Let’s be realistic here and accept that what you’re involved in is risky in many ways. I know you are probably thinking that you are in a unique and different situation because s/he truly loves you, and you really love her/him, etc. But that is what they all say, and when stress and reality get involved, people’s emotions and decisions tend to be all the same after all.

You deserve better. And frankly, so does your spouse.